Why TERFs Aren’t Feminists
When people ask me why, as a cishet woman, I’m so passionate about transgender rights, I always tell them it started with Harry Potter. As a musical theater kid, I always had a lot of gay friends, but it wasn’t [...]
4 ways to be a better ally
A few weeks ago, I saw Hugh Jackman perform at the Hollywood Bowl. He was phenomenal – he sang songs from shows he’s been in and some he hasn’t. A particularly powerful moment was when he sang the song “You [...]
The Complexity of Passing as Cishet
If something keeps coming up, I know it’s worth writing a blog article about. And in the last few weeks, with LGBT+ clients, friends, and media references, the idea of passing – intentionally or otherwise - as cishet (cisgender and [...]
How to know if you’re cheating on your partner
I wrote an article a few years ago about things that everyone can learn from the kink community. The rationale is that when people introduce unconventional things into their sex lives, they can’t make the assumptions most of us make [...]
I went on an asexuality podcast!
Last week, I had the privilege of joining Dr. Wendy O'Connor and Jenni Wilson as the guest on their podcast: The Relationship Show. I originally met Jenni through her work for LA-CAMFT, a professional organization for Los Angeles based therapists. She coordinates [...]
6 Ways to Endure the Trump Presidency
Yesterday – I’m certain I don’t have to tell you – was a roller coaster of emotions. Most people I knew woke up in the morning, reveling in the likelihood of the historical day: electing the first woman to be [...]
4 Things Everyone Should Know About Asexuality
I was at a therapy workshop about LGBT-affirmative counseling about a year ago, and an audience member asked, “I have a client who told me she is asexual. What does that mean?” “Well,” said the presenter, “You know how some [...]