“Are you aware that you default to flexing your feet?” my reflexologist asked me a few months ago. I’d been seeing a reflexologist (and a podiatrist, a physical therapist, an acupuncturist, and briefly a rheumatologist) because of chronic pain throughout [...]
One year, when I was in middle school, I was trying to figure out what to be for Halloween. My mom told me that when she was in grade school, she once went as a “candy store” – she just [...]
In over a decade of private practice, I’ve never spoken to a single client who was inspired to seek therapy predominantly because they’re unhappy with the way they use their phone. And yet, hundreds of clients have expressed to me [...]
Several years ago, an acquaintance from my gym turned to me, mid-workout, and said, “hey, I’ve always wanted to ask a therapist something. Are people just, like, really boring?” I was flabbergasted – not only because the answer is that [...]
When I found out that my first child was male – that is, he has XY chromosomes – I cried for two days. No one was more surprised about this than I was. My pregnancy was the result of a [...]
Recently, I visited a corn maze and enjoyed the process of getting lost on purpose. If you’ve never been to a corn maze, here’s how it works: A farm sets it up months in advance by planting corn seeds in [...]
Take a bubble bath! Get a massage or a pedicure! Go for a walk and take deep breaths! I used to be dogmatic about encouraging clients to practice self-care. “What are you doing for self-care?” I would ask. I did [...]
“The hardest thing in the world is to live in it,” said Buffy the Vampire Slayer, just before leaping into the abyss to stop the (an?) apocalypse-in-progress. That was in the year 2000, and more than 20 years later, this [...]
I’ve watched Disney’s Encanto about a dozen times, and listened to the soundtrack… well, I’ve lost count, but it’s probably in the triple digits. This isn’t because I’m passionate or obsessive – it’s because in addition to being a therapist, [...]
In Vitro Fertilization, or IVF, is a lot to go through. Between the ambiguity of not knowing what’s going to happen, the “wait and hurry up” rhythm of it all, and the emotional hangover from trying to conceive which, for [...]