Laverne Cox is My New Hero
Anyone who has been spending a lot of time with me lately can tell you that my newest obsession is the Netflix series “Orange is the New Black.” Written by Jenji Kohan and based on the memoir of the same [...]
What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate
You're on an airplane, and the person next to you is taking up more than his fair share of space. His legs are spread like he's home on the couch drinking a beer, his elbows keep knocking into you, and [...]
On Fictional Therapists
Anyone who has sat with me and watched a television show or movie featuring a therapy session can tell you that I get pretty critical when a therapist breaches an important ethic. Tom and Lynette’s couples therapist in Desperate Housewives [...]
Staying in the Here and Now
Stressful situations can make the most balanced people act in crazy ways. A few weeks ago, I received an email from a friend who is worried about her relationship with her long-term partner. She told me she’s been feeling very [...]
Cultural Competence and Relationship Minorities
A friend approached me last week in regards to this article about things I learned at Transcending Boundaries, a wonderful conference I had the honor to attend whose purpose is to educate and provide a haven for people who are [...]
5 Common Mistakes Made by Well-Meaning Allies
In every minority community, allies are an instrumental part of the fight for equal rights. Becoming an ally is a choice and a commitment, as well as an act of bravery. Unlike members of minority communities, who advocate for equality [...]
There’s no place like home.
I lived in a house in California until I was 5. Then I lived in another until I was 18. Then I spent the summer with my long-distance boyfriend in Georgia before starting my freshman year of college in Ohio. [...]
8 Things I Learned at Transcending Boundaries
This past weekend, I attended an event called Transcending Boundaries whose stated purpose is to “serve our ever-evolving communities, including bisexual, pansexual, fluid, queer, transgender, transsexual, genderqueer, asexual, intersex, polyamorous, and kinky persons, as well as allies, those who prefer [...]
Emotionally Focused Therapy: a modality for couples
Last weekend, I attended a teaser-training about Emotionally-Focused Therapy, the latest "craze" in couples counseling. I've been curious about it for awhile, because it's one of those buzz words that keeps popping up in therapist circles, and I finally had [...]
Transgender Issues 101
Happy Independence Day! Today, we celebrate the independence of our country from Britain, which includes, among other things, the assertion that all people are created equal! Well, ok, the Constitution says it’s all men, which was definitely the initial intention [...]