Imagine that you’re in a relationship where you get to call all the shots and your partner will do anything you want. You want Chinese food? Just plan it. An outing to Disneyland? Put it on the calendar. A trip [...]
Sometimes, when I do public speaking engagements, I ask the audience to define an emotion. We feel emotions every single day, but when asked to explain what an emotion is, most people blanch. “A thing you feel?” someone will ask, [...]
Recently a number of clients have asked me about patterns they’ve noticed in their relationships. They keep dating the same “type” of person… and that type isn’t “thoughtful, kind, loving, and generous, with great communication skills.” What they’ve noticed is [...]
“It’s not the years in your life; it’s the life in your years.” -Abraham Lincoln John Green’s best-selling young adult novel The Fault in Our Stars, which was also adapted into a movie, is a love story about a teenage [...]
Imagine if I told you that my chair was uncomfortable without providing any additional information. If you wanted to fix the problem, you might make it higher or lower, firmer or softer, you might adjust the back, the head rest, [...]
Ten years ago, I described my sexual orientation as heteroflexible. I would grin as I explained that while I had historically always dated men, I didn’t want to rule out the possibility that I could someday fall in love with [...]
Two and a half years ago, I sat in a movie theater with a friend and took in the words of the blonde cartoon queen in front of me: Don’t let them in, don’t let them see. Be the good [...]
I felt deeply skeptical as I followed my sister, a strong and limber yoga enthusiast, into a room that smelled of Patchouli. There were a lot of things that had deterred me from trying yoga. From everything I’d seen, it [...]
Assertiveness is an act of kindness. This is an idea I keep coming back to, again and again. It’s something I say at least once a week during a therapy session, and almost every time I do a speaking engagement, [...]
Alarm rings. Shower, dress, food. Make some coffee to go. Grab your keys, endure traffic, arrive at work. Then calls, emails, meetings, emails about meetings, meetings about calls, lunch at your desk, paperwork, paperwork, paperwork. Keys, back into traffic, gym, [...]