Fiercely Claim Your Leisure Time
When my toddler was a year old, I sat him in front of a giant art pad with a jumbo crayon into his hand. Of course, the first thing he did was put the crayon in his mouth, but with [...]
Why TERFs Aren’t Feminists
When people ask me why, as a cishet woman, I’m so passionate about transgender rights, I always tell them it started with Harry Potter. As a musical theater kid, I always had a lot of gay friends, but it wasn’t [...]
Why Sexual Assault Survivors Blame Themselves
It’s not your fault. Before I dive into a blog article about sexual assault, I had to say that. You may feel like it’s your fault. Not only is that extremely common; it's also trying to protect you from your [...]
Loneliness and Online Harassment
Maybe it’s because I’ve been rereading Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, but the above discomforting interaction led me to think a lot about vulnerability, connection, and loneliness. Let me explain. I have two profiles on Facebook. One, which I’ve been [...]
Sexual Communication: 3 Things Everyone Can Learn From the Kink Community
From a very young age, we’re told not to talk about sex. We’re provided with handy euphemisms for our body parts and informed of all the scary things that can happen if we have sex without protection, or with a [...]
Feminism is an Everyone Issue
I am a feminist because I believe in women, of course, but I am also a feminist because I believe in men. I believe that women have the intelligence, the ambition, the guts to be doctors and lawyers, CEOs and [...]
Gender Roles Q&A
I was recently contacted by a middle school student in Kansas who was doing a research study about the impact of gender roles. Her questions were thought-provoking, especially given her young age (I thought she was a university student when [...]
Packed Into a Gender Box
Something I've struggled with my whole life is being told that I should be "more feminine" - wear makeup, dress in more feminine clothing, get my nails done. And this has always rubbed me the wrong way. My upbringing never [...]